Yet that is not the full story. We need to process anger and not bottle it up. As ever problems often arise as part of childhood protections. For me I had to stop getting into fights all the time. I was not allowed to express anger at home and so I eventually blamed myself.
I was at fault, as I was constantly told. That anger was directed inwards. I would punish myself so instead lashing out at others I was always at fault. I would think of bad things about me. My memories of my teenage year were wanting to jump out of the bedroom window at the top of our house. Decades later I examined anger with my psychologist and she said the anger has to come out. I felt no anger toward my parents and it was still directed to myself. This is something I am still working on, but it takes a long time to undo a coping mechanism that was flawed from the start. The following article warns of the dangers of bottling up emotions. By all means control your anger but don't suppress it.
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